WE CAN SHOW YOU THE WAY                             DIVORCE AND SEPARATION IMPACTS                               

Taking care of yourself -  It’s most important

Emily M. Brown


1600 Wilson Blvd.

Suite 702

Arlington, Va 22209

703 528-3900


Lisa Snipper LCSW

11250 Roger Bacon Drive

Suite 6

Reston, Virginia 20190



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  1. Counseling / Therapy

  2. Adult

  3. Adolescent

  4. Children

This time is important for ....


How you as adults

are able to manage yourselves

will determine how well you will be able to heal.

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When you’re going through a hard time it’s crucial that you take good care of yourself. You have a lot on your plate right now and figuring out how to take care of yourself is of utmost importance.

Accept emotional support from people you trust. These might be close friends, a counselor, a minister, or a relative. Be careful about who you choose - you don’t want others judging your situation or gossiping about it. You also don’t have energy to spend bad-mouthing your spouse. Use your energy to take care of yourself.

Consider joining a divorce support group. These groups provide an opportunity to talk with others who are going through similar experiences. A good support group is not a “woe is me” group but offers understanding and encouragement for moving through the divorce process.

Make time every day, even if it’s only a few minutes, to do something you want to do, such as read the paper, take a cat-nap, call a friend.

Keep your strength up by eating healthy, but allow yourself a piece of chocolate or other treat every now and then. If you’ve been exercising, keep it up. Exercise can help clear your brain and provide endorphins that help you relax. If you haven’t been exercising, start now, maybe by finding someone to walk with. Another possibility is taking a yoga or a meditation class.

Pay attention to your own emotions – your pain, sadness, and disappointment – rather than focus on your anger at your ex. Letting yourself feel your deeper emotions will help you grieve and move ahead. If you find yourself ruminating about your ex or your situation, consciously change the subject in your mind: think about the flowers in your yard, your favorite color, your best friend, or do something physical that preempts the rumination.

Being alone can be difficult if your kids are with the other parent or you don’t have kids,. Early after separating it’s important to schedule events or time with friends. Later, this alone time provides you with an opportunity to pay attention to yourself. Learning to enjoy alone time is an important skill.

“Old unresolved baggage” from childhood often rears its’ head when you’re going through a difficult time. It’s important to address such issues so that you don’t get stuck in the grief phase or play out these issues in a high-conflict divorce. View this as going back and picking up unfinished developmental issues, some of which probably contributed to the marital problems. Counseling can help you get on a better track.

Don’t be pressured into making any major decisions without getting the appropriate professional help.

Stop spinning - Let us help you get your feet on the ground again.